Life is hard.
Life is restricting.
No one wakes up and says, I am going to be awesome today and complete all my goals.
Life can make you feel stuck.
You have the same morning routine, the same commute, the same boring job and you watch the same T.V. shows.
Sure, most of us would love to quit our jobs and travel the World.
But you can’t.
We are confined by time, money, responsibilities, and a bunch of other factors.
This is about giving yourself a break.
A funny thing happened…
I had a rough couple of weeks. I was beating myself up over my perceived lack of accomplishments.
I shared a few thoughts with someone and as I was talking I realized…
I sound like a big, entitled, naive cry baby.
Who cares if you aren’t where you want to be in life? No one is going to beat you up like you will beat yourself up.
I started not to care.
Not in the sense that I didn’t want to acheive my goals. But I stopped worrying about a time table.
Who cares if I achieve my goals by 2016.
What if you never start that business? What if you never take that trip? What if you never go back to school to get a degree?
Everything happens for a reason
As with all great things in life, it takes time.
Give yourself a break and don’t be so hard on yourself.
Be nice to yourself.
Care less about accomplishing your goals.
Here are some things to do instead
- Listen to what others say
- Study what non-verbal communication is all about
- Read a book
- Write a book
- Learn how to meditate
- Study a religion you have never heard of
- Call a family member once a week
- Cook a dish from a foreign country
- Watch a YouTube video in another language
- Go for a walk and leave your phone behind.
All of these suggestions get you out of your own head. They force you to see the World on a bigger stage, one without you in the center.
Stop putting such high expectations on yourself.
Chances are you are doing everything right, and only time will tell if your expectations were worth your struggle.
Hell you might change your mind about yourself.
Studies suggest that people reinvent themselves every decade.
So your goals today aren’t going to be your goals in 10 years.
Think about that when you are beating yourself up about not making 50k, not getting a promotion, or not being able to by that new car you’ve always wanted.
Think about what your life will be like in 10 years when you don’t have student loans, you have a savings account, and you are married.
Release yourself from the stress that you create for yourself.
Life is hard. Don’t make it harder by putting time constrained expectations on yourself.
Your mind will answer most questions if you learn to relax and wait for the answer.William S. Burroughs